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October 14, 2023

15 Helpful Selective Mutism Activities

Children with selective mutism often need time to warm up in new situations or with new people, so what are some good selective mutism activities to break the ice?selective mutism activities

Since children with selective mutism often can’t speak in many situations it helps to have an arsenal of activities you can do with them. This helps increase their confidence, makes them more comfortable, and gives them something to do that doesn’t necessarily require speaking. Some activities can also be a helpful way to include speech without too much pressure.

These activities can be used at home with your child, in therapy, and at school with students.

In this post I’ll cover, what is selective mutism, selective mutism activities such as selective mutism bingo, play therapy for selective mutism, selective mutism therapy games, the selective mutism workbook, as well as, selective mutism treatment.

This post is all about selective mutism activities!

 

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What is Selective Mutism?

Selective mutism is an anxiety disorder that primarily affects children. It causes them to be unable to speak in certain situations or with certain people while being able to talk in other situations. Their anxiety causes them to become non-verbal due to the freeze response in fight-flight-freeze.

Selective mutism is a serious disorder and not the same as being shy. It’s not often overcome without therapy or other forms of treatment, and if left untreated, can persist into adulthood.

 

Related: What is Selective Mutism? And Why is It So Unheard Of?

 

Selective Mutism Activities

Selective mutism can be a challenging disorder, but many activities can help children with this condition feel more comfortable and able to express themselves. Here are some ideas:

 

1. Art and Crafts

Creative activities allow them to express themselves without the pressure of verbal communication. Drawing, colouring, painting, modelling clay, and crafting can be enjoyable and therapeutic. Non-verbal activities can be a great starting point if they’re not yet comfortable with speaking around you. It helps them to feel more comfortable in their environment and more likely to open up.

 

2. Play Therapy

Use toys and games as a medium for communication. Board games, dolls, or action figures can create a comfortable environment for interaction without direct verbal pressure. This allows them to speak only if they choose to, which removes any pressure.

 

3. Bravery Bingo

Turn developing their speaking skills into a game by playing Bravery Bingo. This helps push them out of their comfort zone by challenging them to tasks in hopes of earning Bingo and getting a reward. Download the Bravery Bingo Cards here and choose from a blank Bingo card or a prefilled-out card.

 

4. Music

Encourage them to express themselves through music. Singing, playing musical instruments, or even just listening to music can be a non-threatening way to engage with emotions. This also allows them a way to get comfortable making noise without having to speak.

 

5. Singing, Rhymes, or Counting

Singing together as a group, reciting a rhyme or poem, or even counting, or singing the alphabet can be a safe way for the child to engage without feeling put on the spot. They may feel much more comfortable joining in with the group than doing this on their own.

 

6. Storytelling

Reading or telling stories can be a way to open up communication. You can take turns reading or creating stories together, or just read to them, allowing them to participate at their own pace.

 

7. Playing With Puppets

Using puppets could feel like a safer way for the child to express themselves, especially from behind a screen where only the puppet is seen. This is a great way to get them more comfortable with using their voice.

 

8. Outdoor Play

Physical activities, such as playing in a park or participating in sports, can help reduce anxiety and create opportunities for social interaction in a more relaxed setting.

 

9. Animal Interaction

Animals can provide a non-judgmental and comforting presence. Activities like petting animals, visiting a petting zoo, or even having a pet at home can be beneficial for lessening anxiety.

 

10. Visual Aids

Use visual aids like pictures, flashcards, or communication boards to assist in expressing needs or preferences. This can provide a sense of security and support, giving them a way to express themselves without speech.

 

11. Role-playing

Engage in role-playing scenarios where the child can take on different roles, such as ordering at a restaurant. This can help build confidence in various social situations.

 

12. Quiet Time

Allow for quiet time where the child can engage in solitary activities like reading or puzzles. This can be a calming and self-soothing activity.

 

13. Talk About Emotions

Have a conversation with the child about their emotions and situations that may provoke their anxiety. Talk about what to do and how to handle these situations healthily. You may also want to use children’s books about anxiety or selective mutism to show them they’re not alone in their experiences and to open up conversation.

 

14. Therapy Games

Consider involving a mental health professional who specializes in working with children with selective mutism. Therapy games can help them express their thoughts and emotions in a safe and supportive environment.

 

15. The Selective Mutism Workbook

The Selective Mutism Workbook provides hands-on activities for children with selective mutism. It provides step-by-step strategies on how to overcome common struggles and allows you to track progress.

 

Remember, patience and understanding are crucial. It’s essential to create an environment where the child feels safe and supported, gradually building their confidence in communication.

 

 

Selective Mutism Treatment

These activities can serve as helpful treatment methods for children with selective mutism. Early intervention is incredibly important in overcoming this disorder. Creating safe spaces and activities that encourage the child to use their voice is essential to their treatment. Be sure these practices are utilized not only at home, but in the classroom, and therapy as well.

Therapies such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) or Behavioural Therapy can be beneficial for those struggling with SM.

In some cases, medication may be helpful as well if the anxiety is debilitating or leads to depression. Medication should be used alongside therapy for best results.

 

As you can see, many activities can be helpful for a child with selective mutism. Be sure to try them out at home, in the classroom, or therapy. These practices can be a crucial part of the treatment process.

 

By Morgan Peters

 

Other Posts You May Like:

How to Help a Child With Selective Mutism
What Causes Selective Mutism? Misconceptions & More!
Is Selective Mutism a Disability? How It Affects Children Academically & Emotionally

 

Sources:

Andi. “Activities for Families Experiencing Selective Mutism.” Selective Mutism Association, 22 Oct. 2021, www.selectivemutism.org/activities-for-families-selective-mutism/.

Oxford Health NHS Foundation Trust, July 2020, www.oxfordhealth.nhs.uk/wp-content/uploads/sites/22/2021/08/Activities-Selective-Mutism-5-11-years.doc.

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